This has been a major topic lately. When is it okay to give him/her your home key? Um for me I would say after my last name change, unless he bought the house of course! Otherwise you should hold that key for privacy or just in case things don’t workout…What about you? When would you give up the key?
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After Warning Comes Destruction
A young unmarried woman will only tell you so many times that she needs more before disaster happens. Either she will replace your ass or find a substitute to serve a supplement vitamin to keep your relationship alive! Basically someone else will be meeting her emotional needs and/or physical needs. Then Mister Clueless will say but we were happy! smh! No your ass was happy, I was fucking miserable but then a snake ass grin will appear and say but I am now…hmmm
Communication is the key, but a woman can only tell you so many times to get your shit together.
The Truth Is
Let this be understood…I am a woman so therefore I can be emotional at times and even a drama queen but at the end of the day Im not stupid. You can follow your heart if you want but Im following my first mind because my heart will have my ass hungry & homeless. Women make this mistake too often.
Dont keep placing yourself in the same situation! If something dont work the first time and you cant see any changes made then what in the hell makes you think its going to work later. “Same old shit just another Day”
Forget Games
Im tired of talking about the game. We all know everyone play them rather they admit to it or not. Everybody got a plan or strategy until it fails we think we got skills…Anyway my next few releases will be my own love story…the truth about serenity…So fellows you might not like it but oh well Im going to post it anyway
Fuck Him and That Other Bitch
Girls its time you become a Woman! Stop fighting these hoes over your so called man.
If he’s fucking her & you at the SAME DAMN TIME both of you are on the same list of Stupid.
Now if you don’t know about it, you cant worry about it. But if he is resting his head on your pillow every night and parading his hoe in your face (public places) in the day then he aint worth fighting for.
A woman should demand a certain level of respect always…But you dumb bitches want to get your respect by beating the other bitch ass…fuck that whore and him. If her low self esteem, attention thirsty ass need to fuck other women men to feel good about herself, then let her! A real woman has to learn that in life you dont have to settle for bullshit and a relationship is a partnership and without trust and respect your shit will fail every time.
So the minute you catch his ass slipping check his ass at the door, dont even look at that other bitch especially if she knows you exist & just fucking your man for a thrill. Fighting her ass makes her pussy wet because she now knows you mad & feel threaten.
A bitch will die of thirst before I allow myself to show any emotions of heart trifling act.
Just another Rant on how I been thinking…
He Say He Respect My Relationship but…
Dude say we are just friends and he respect my relationship but he still waiting on a chance to slide in!
Women dont fall for this shit!! The other guy will fuck your relationship up with no remorse. He trying to get his peter wet… Hey he might even like you pass sex but is it worth it? Will he take you serious if you cheat? I dont think so but I could be wrong.
Keep in mind the grass always look greener on the other side but that just mean its been shitted on more!
She Lives (mini update)
Update for my regular readers…
Love is on the fast lane! As soon as I decided to let it go…he cane back and proposed with my ring and the keys to my new home. My children and I have moved in. Me and my Fiance have decided that he will not move in until we are married. So I guess its true love never fails…
Everyone is adjusting to the change and its a change all around. More to come***
My First Time Sucking~
I was about 23 years old living the married life with kids. I had a group of coworkers that I seldom chatted with at work. There was this one chic lets call her Melissa who said she was the baddest at giving head. Well the men on the job confirmed her story they said this girl had a mouth on her that made them want to just bust thinking about how good she was. I was like WOW! Now, I am a pleaser by nature in the bedroom but I thought putting my precious lips around my husband penis had to be the most degrading thing ever. And God forbid he spit up (cum) in my mouth, gagging thoughts! But then she made the shit sound so good like a commercial for sucking dick. So I thought well maybe I should try it, maybe my husband would like it, maybe if I pushed all the nasty thoughts out of my head I could do it…I mean back then Black women was not big on this and the ones who did kept this a secret!
So one night I told my husband baby I want to try something tonight. His eyes widen like oh okay, shocked because at this point riding him or letting him hit it from the back was like a special treat. Poor man had to be bored to death-we had been sexing since I was 16! Anyways….He laid back and I had a wash cloth side the bed (smdh) I started with the soft kisses up and down his shaft then I remembered she said the head of his penis is the focus area so I wrapped my lips around it and walla suck suck like it was a pacifier. Then go figure Miss clean freak wiped the penis off every five seconds, hell I didn’t know that was a turn off.
At first he was all in to it then later he asked where did I get this from…my eyes looking disappointed as if I was a child being punished by her father. Then he said he doesn’t want me to do that to him, that he felt bad that his wife was doing that…bullshit! He just had not had it done right!
And like they all say practice makes perfect and only a failure is one who doesn’t try! Then I listen to my coworker and went back again but this time I left the wash cloth alone and made them damn toes curl…. Ahhh it wasn’t so bad after a good drink. And just like that I learn to slob on the knob and nope it wasn’t something I broadcasted yet I felt confident that I was becoming the freak that my man needed me to be! LOL
NEW DAY NEW SHIT!
First of all I been soaking in this love shit and its making me sick. It’s not my style to sit and sob over a man even if I love his ass. As you guys know I was with my ex husband 17 years and I’m not saying when things got tough I got out but I am saying this when things got out of control I said deuces and cut my losses. I mean I am a woman of standards and morals and I believe I am made of good and deserve to be respected. I work hard in my home and outside my home. I’m no dirty freak but I am good at all I do! Wink! So why not give me what I deserve. I occasionally cook for my dude (being I am not wifey I’m not playing the role) I don’t clean at his house but clean at my own. I work hard on the job and pay my own bills rather it get tight or not I hold my own. I sex his brains out but I don’t do it on a regular. I believe everything should be done in moderation as I am just a girlfriend or whatever not wifey. When you go to placing titles on me things start to change. You add more responsibility in my book of rules. I don’t feel I should treat my boyfriend the same way I’d treat my husband. Otherwise it would defeat the purpose of saying I do, right?
So with all that being said it is time for me to start the healing process, I mean really start the healing process. I’m going to get my hair done you know appearance builds confidence. I’m going to start a little bit of socializing outside my circle. I need to open up a little for several reasons, one being closed in limits me on who I can meet, two limiting my circle means limiting my ability to network for career possibilities! Therefore, my socializing must consist of people on my level or above my level.
I’m on some new shit and if anyone wants to get my bus (in ignorant Stevie J voice) they better damn well be able to handle it! I’m promised myself I would not lose myself in another man and I would not compromise my own happiness for someone else. I am going to be true to myself because looks like no one else will. So Fuck what you heard or what you thought but Serenity is back and she aint on no love shit! #TRUSTNOONE!
BROKEN HEARTED & STUBBORN
I got a bad combination going on here. I am broken-hearted and stubborn about the situation too. I miss him all day and I am so used to sharing my laughs, cries and day talking with him but now my day is like blah! Though he still call to check on me and ask if I need anything my responses are empty on point blank…a simple I am ok or no thank you. Many of you will say well why do I do this if I miss the man. Well this is the problem with most people we are too weak to handle the tough part of moving on…if I choose to fall back into habit with him then I will begin to settle for less than I expect or want. I know I can have him in my life but at this point in my life it’s all or nothing…so my punk ass will have to suffer! Yup, tears falling every other hour, day dreaming of the good times how it could or should have been at random is what I have to deal with. This will pass me by…
And some may call this a game, oh well, it is what it is! As much as I hate that phrase it sure does fit the moment here. I had a deep conversation with him and told him what my issues were and he can easily fix it if I’m worth it to him but if not he will keep it moving, right?! Damn skippy! And at the end of the day all things will work out for the best…because if a man is not willing to go out of his comfort zone to please you but expect you too jump hurdles for him he aint worth the time any damn ways. So…let me pop my pain pill, sip my water, eat my fresh fruit and relax today…
**oh by the way**The new guy still send me messages and has made it known that if I shall become available game is on!!! Yes I know the grass is not always greener and his shit will stank too, but nothing wrong with a good laugh to get over a bad cry!
