Let this be understood…I am a woman so therefore I can be emotional at times and even a drama queen but at the end of the day Im not stupid. You can follow your heart if you want but Im following my first mind because my heart will have my ass hungry & homeless. Women make this mistake too often.
Dont keep placing yourself in the same situation! If something dont work the first time and you cant see any changes made then what in the hell makes you think its going to work later. “Same old shit just another Day”
Tag Archives: Love
The Truth Is
Forget Games
Im tired of talking about the game. We all know everyone play them rather they admit to it or not. Everybody got a plan or strategy until it fails we think we got skills…Anyway my next few releases will be my own love story…the truth about serenity…So fellows you might not like it but oh well Im going to post it anyway
Becky or Blow Bubbles in it Charlie? (an old post)
All I hear now is he wants me to give him some “Becky” for those of you that haven’t heard this song by plies, this is just a cute way for a man to say he wants a blow job! Laughs! And I call Blow Bubbles in it Charlie when a man pleasure a woman orally between your legs…Got it? Good! Okay lets talk…
First of all let me say this I wouldn’t encourage anyone to go around sucking Charlies like their blow pops…I mean really that’s nasty. Yet, I’m just saying its okay to try something new with your husband or long-term mate. I know some females that hate the fact “Becky” was ever mentioned. Stop gagging in your thoughts! Your partner should not want you to feel uncomfortable with anything just to please themselves that’s just selfish and not wanting to please your mate can also be a form of selfishness.
I say this if she wasn’t doing it before you guys got married or in a long-term relationship , then guess what, game over you can’t make it a requirement now! Ladies if you was sucking him blue to get him hooked and then decided now you got him you are not going to even sniff the Charlie guess what…your going to have problems!!! Its sorta like when they start out sending you roses and after you say I love you…they don’t send you shit again…*winks* Yeah that pisses us off right?
Married women…this will have to be a blog all by itself…this is your husband! There shouldn’t be an inch of his body you haven’t explored. Love that man pleasure him…make his toes curl…whatever- don’t let the neighbor do it! I know some of you are saying go ahead let them because I aint putting my mouth on his nasty Charlie! Shaking my head, it’s not nasty if you rinse if off! Laughs!
Men, oh my Men! I must say I’m not a big fan on just plain oh head…but Blow Bubbles in it Charlie can be a plus at times…I mean put your finger in it, blow on it, taste it and pleasure me…I just rather you be upfront and say I don’t know what I’m doing before you attempt this trick…Women hate it when you don’t know what you are doing and mostly when you can’t follow directions. Honestly speaking, I think it’s some women who are just as aggressive about making this a requirement as the men are! Ladies every man don’t eat kitty litter! HA! I see you saying they don’t? Why? Looking like Curious George…You guys are too funny!
Well I must go now…and no I’m not going to give some “BECKY”!
Today, I am laying here in black silk panties and a tank top thinking why must I leave my comfort zone. The weather is chilly but nice with the feeling of love in the air! This is that day I want to say baby can I just give you some head and stay home??! Lol
I need to hit lotto! Everybody have a great day
She Lives (mini update)
Update for my regular readers…
Love is on the fast lane! As soon as I decided to let it go…he cane back and proposed with my ring and the keys to my new home. My children and I have moved in. Me and my Fiance have decided that he will not move in until we are married. So I guess its true love never fails…
Everyone is adjusting to the change and its a change all around. More to come***
HERE’S WHAT I BEEN THINKING
Hello Blog World,
I am doing pretty good and hope you all can say the same. I am feeling good about my plans for my future. I been doing research on different job markets. I am considering going back to school for a trade, skill, certification before I go full blast for my degree in a particular field. Your career and plans have to fit your lifestyle and what you enjoy doing so that you can be your best at it. These are my thoughts. Okay boring conversation right?! **giggles**
Well relationship wise I am still taking things day by day…and that’s all I am going to say about that for now. I can let you guys know that I am very happy at the moment.
Raising my children is always a constant roller coaster but what did you expect I have teenagers and girls at that…Yet, I complain I am very glad to be a mother and proud of my babies most of the time. (well some of the time) I have those type kids that everyone outside of the home love and think Wow those are good kids but when they are home with me, it’s like which one do I slap first… slack on chores but want the world type kids. Oh well, I love the lil Bratts.
Anyways I need to play catch up on some blogs…meantime tell me what you’ve been thinking!
NEW DAY NEW SHIT!
First of all I been soaking in this love shit and its making me sick. It’s not my style to sit and sob over a man even if I love his ass. As you guys know I was with my ex husband 17 years and I’m not saying when things got tough I got out but I am saying this when things got out of control I said deuces and cut my losses. I mean I am a woman of standards and morals and I believe I am made of good and deserve to be respected. I work hard in my home and outside my home. I’m no dirty freak but I am good at all I do! Wink! So why not give me what I deserve. I occasionally cook for my dude (being I am not wifey I’m not playing the role) I don’t clean at his house but clean at my own. I work hard on the job and pay my own bills rather it get tight or not I hold my own. I sex his brains out but I don’t do it on a regular. I believe everything should be done in moderation as I am just a girlfriend or whatever not wifey. When you go to placing titles on me things start to change. You add more responsibility in my book of rules. I don’t feel I should treat my boyfriend the same way I’d treat my husband. Otherwise it would defeat the purpose of saying I do, right?
So with all that being said it is time for me to start the healing process, I mean really start the healing process. I’m going to get my hair done you know appearance builds confidence. I’m going to start a little bit of socializing outside my circle. I need to open up a little for several reasons, one being closed in limits me on who I can meet, two limiting my circle means limiting my ability to network for career possibilities! Therefore, my socializing must consist of people on my level or above my level.
I’m on some new shit and if anyone wants to get my bus (in ignorant Stevie J voice) they better damn well be able to handle it! I’m promised myself I would not lose myself in another man and I would not compromise my own happiness for someone else. I am going to be true to myself because looks like no one else will. So Fuck what you heard or what you thought but Serenity is back and she aint on no love shit! #TRUSTNOONE!
BROKEN HEARTED & STUBBORN
I got a bad combination going on here. I am broken-hearted and stubborn about the situation too. I miss him all day and I am so used to sharing my laughs, cries and day talking with him but now my day is like blah! Though he still call to check on me and ask if I need anything my responses are empty on point blank…a simple I am ok or no thank you. Many of you will say well why do I do this if I miss the man. Well this is the problem with most people we are too weak to handle the tough part of moving on…if I choose to fall back into habit with him then I will begin to settle for less than I expect or want. I know I can have him in my life but at this point in my life it’s all or nothing…so my punk ass will have to suffer! Yup, tears falling every other hour, day dreaming of the good times how it could or should have been at random is what I have to deal with. This will pass me by…
And some may call this a game, oh well, it is what it is! As much as I hate that phrase it sure does fit the moment here. I had a deep conversation with him and told him what my issues were and he can easily fix it if I’m worth it to him but if not he will keep it moving, right?! Damn skippy! And at the end of the day all things will work out for the best…because if a man is not willing to go out of his comfort zone to please you but expect you too jump hurdles for him he aint worth the time any damn ways. So…let me pop my pain pill, sip my water, eat my fresh fruit and relax today…
**oh by the way**The new guy still send me messages and has made it known that if I shall become available game is on!!! Yes I know the grass is not always greener and his shit will stank too, but nothing wrong with a good laugh to get over a bad cry!
Better Tease than Lover?
I’m not saying I’m horrible in bed. I’m just saying I know I have a one helluva talk game. Some men like a good tease but they want a good lay at the end. Most people who read my blog would think I’m very hot and ready at all times. I’m so opposite. I must have more of a connection with you past the physical. Now, don’t get me wrong, I know immediately in most cases if I want a guy to bang my guts in or make slow love to me at first sight. However, if I reacted on every tingle or twitch between my legs I would be some type of whore, I think! LOL… In fact, I am well-known for having more Dicks left standing than the average chic because I love to tease. Is this a form of immaturity? Probably but who cares…Oh probably the dude with the blue balls. HaHa
I think initially I am a better tease than lover. I can talk more shit than I can back up, initially! Once I am comfortable she seems to come out, yeah her, my inner freak! Don’t act like you don’t have one we all do…it just take the right person to bring it up out of you.
My problem is that I been with the same man for so long and though I prefer not to give an exact number of partners I have I am not ashamed of the number because trust me it’s not enough to brag on! The lack of experience makes me a bit reluctant to just jump straight into things with a guy even if I am really feeling him that way. Especially after I hear all the wild stories people tell about their sex life…They make sucking dicks with peppermints seem like something simple.
This was my random thought for the day…
This week I will be listing my favorite bloggers again…I haven’t did that in a while and some links to some of my favorite post too…can’t say what day yet.
BEWARE of the MAINTENANCE MAN
Women tend to find a maintenance man when their husband or long-term partner is not satisfying their emotional needs but not limited to physical needs (this is less often). Being that women are more in touch with their emotional side than the physical they need more attention that way. Anyhow, the maintenance man knows his role and will play his part when ultimately he is just there to get a free fuck!
Do you really think he gives a damn about how your husband never buy you flowers or how he hasn’t complimented you in months? Um NO! Do you really think he cares how your day went at work? NO again! He knows you are in a vulnerable state and you need someone to listen but at the end of the day you will reward him with some of the best sex ever because you feel he has given you a release you needed & now you owe him his.
Twist~ There are times when the maintenance man will become attached. Even though he is probably more attached to the good sex, he will demand more time and this is when the shit gets complicated. Cheating never pays off in the end. I can promise you that. Now Men are usually not messy like women, so no he won’t call your dude and leave trashy messages but he will demand more time to fuck you in all types of positions and careless of your time restraints. At the end of the day the Maintenance Man become more of a liability than you thought it would be… so what’s the point of having one.
Speaking of the sexual part- if the reason for the Maintenance Man is sex it’s usually because the man at home is constantly making love to his wife or woman and not hardcore fucking her from time to time. A woman needs to be fucked randomly this keep us wanting more. Most men are afraid to go there with their trophy wife. And well the next man will bang her brains out and she will feel like it is Christmas!
How about you learn how to effectively communicate to your mate? Tell him what your needs are and which ones he is not meeting. Give him time to correct this and try to help him. Especially if it’s sex…you can teach a man easily how to please you provided he is already blessed with the proper tools! (giggles) Emotional needs may require a little more time and effort but can be accomplished. Yet, if none of this works then don’t get a Maintenance Man, find a Replacement!
