This has been a major topic lately. When is it okay to give him/her your home key? Um for me I would say after my last name change, unless he bought the house of course! Otherwise you should hold that key for privacy or just in case things don’t workout…What about you? When would you give up the key?
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Well, I’ve decided to tell dude that I’m moving on. I realized the other day that he wants to control me with material things, such as the ring, the house. He wanted me to audition or jump hoops for it. I’m not that kind of girl. And I can’t lie getting out a little more and realizing there is a lot more guys out there helped me say it’s over. Not because I think the grass is greener but because I have not explored at all since my divorce. I went from divorce to this guy. I’m sure I will find another guy that will impress me and make me reconsider falling in love again but for now I just want to sample life.
The new guy lingers around but more so on friend type level. This guy is highly intelligent and has been a useful resource at the moment. He has made it no secret that when I’m ready to cross the line he is down with it but he respects my stand on things right now. Besides, he is not waiting around on any chic either, in fact I think we are in the same place as far as relationship goes…but I’m not investing much energy in that area.
I’m getting ready to get out more with the girls. I want to focus on my next career move as I have set a goal for the next 6-12 months. I want to make a power move. And been in a very emotional state with love shit does not help me get there. So there it is…
Serenity Single Again and leaving her options open…
I’m not saying I’m horrible in bed. I’m just saying I know I have a one helluva talk game. Some men like a good tease but they want a good lay at the end. Most people who read my blog would think I’m very hot and ready at all times. I’m so opposite. I must have more of a connection with you past the physical. Now, don’t get me wrong, I know immediately in most cases if I want a guy to bang my guts in or make slow love to me at first sight. However, if I reacted on every tingle or twitch between my legs I would be some type of whore, I think! LOL… In fact, I am well-known for having more Dicks left standing than the average chic because I love to tease. Is this a form of immaturity? Probably but who cares…Oh probably the dude with the blue balls. HaHa
I think initially I am a better tease than lover. I can talk more shit than I can back up, initially! Once I am comfortable she seems to come out, yeah her, my inner freak! Don’t act like you don’t have one we all do…it just take the right person to bring it up out of you.
My problem is that I been with the same man for so long and though I prefer not to give an exact number of partners I have I am not ashamed of the number because trust me it’s not enough to brag on! The lack of experience makes me a bit reluctant to just jump straight into things with a guy even if I am really feeling him that way. Especially after I hear all the wild stories people tell about their sex life…They make sucking dicks with peppermints seem like something simple.
This was my random thought for the day…
This week I will be listing my favorite bloggers again…I haven’t did that in a while and some links to some of my favorite post too…can’t say what day yet.
Women tend to find a maintenance man when their husband or long-term partner is not satisfying their emotional needs but not limited to physical needs (this is less often). Being that women are more in touch with their emotional side than the physical they need more attention that way. Anyhow, the maintenance man knows his role and will play his part when ultimately he is just there to get a free fuck!
Do you really think he gives a damn about how your husband never buy you flowers or how he hasn’t complimented you in months? Um NO! Do you really think he cares how your day went at work? NO again! He knows you are in a vulnerable state and you need someone to listen but at the end of the day you will reward him with some of the best sex ever because you feel he has given you a release you needed & now you owe him his.
Twist~ There are times when the maintenance man will become attached. Even though he is probably more attached to the good sex, he will demand more time and this is when the shit gets complicated. Cheating never pays off in the end. I can promise you that. Now Men are usually not messy like women, so no he won’t call your dude and leave trashy messages but he will demand more time to fuck you in all types of positions and careless of your time restraints. At the end of the day the Maintenance Man become more of a liability than you thought it would be… so what’s the point of having one.
Speaking of the sexual part- if the reason for the Maintenance Man is sex it’s usually because the man at home is constantly making love to his wife or woman and not hardcore fucking her from time to time. A woman needs to be fucked randomly this keep us wanting more. Most men are afraid to go there with their trophy wife. And well the next man will bang her brains out and she will feel like it is Christmas!
How about you learn how to effectively communicate to your mate? Tell him what your needs are and which ones he is not meeting. Give him time to correct this and try to help him. Especially if it’s sex…you can teach a man easily how to please you provided he is already blessed with the proper tools! (giggles) Emotional needs may require a little more time and effort but can be accomplished. Yet, if none of this works then don’t get a Maintenance Man, find a Replacement!
I haven’t mention much about my personal life because I don’t know what the hell is going on. Last thing I mentioned was an engagement. BOOM! And the bomb blows up in my face. Ha! I wanted the ring so bad got it and lost it all in the same week (lol) Anyway, things are so ass backwards with him. And me being the spoil bratt I am who doesn’t like to give in to my own emotions have been forced to start planning another option for me. I am now feeling like maybe I should just stay single because I am not the typical woman and I just don’t settle for any old bullshit. I don’t have much patience either…so even though
we he have been buying furniture for what suppose to be our new home. I am looking at the calendar thinking shit, we have no date set, I have my own home and freedom right now and the single life is looking more enticing by the moment. Don’t get me wrong I want that marriage life again but not forced and not if it’s one-sided. A man can feed me all the sweet lines in the world but I only react off of their actions. So right now, I am not sure if I am just being impatient and spoiled or just getting cold feet. Honestly, I don’t know how Serenity will end up.
Needless to say things has been dragging out. Yet, I have remained very faithful. My work and kids keep me pretty occupied so I don’t get out often.
This doesn’t take a book to write. When you want more from your man the answer is simple just do less. Yes, I said less. The more you do the less he does. Men are so funny that way. For example, you have been dating over a year and he is not giving you as much attention as you would like or as he use to. Instead of nagging, bitching and throwing a teenage tantrum, simple back up, relax and calm the hell down. Take more time for yourself, don’t be so available all the time. It’s okay to miss a few of his calls, delayed response to text is helpful as well. This makes him wonder and puts the challenge & the chase back into the game for him. Men need this being they are hunters by nature. I’m not telling you something that I haven’t tried myself! Now don’t over do it and as my kids say (don’t give him too much)! LOL! Be sure to return his call at some point within the day. Now I have one exception on this…my dude had got a habit of calling me late at night…Um no! I sleep early and he needs to be broken of this bullshit so I politely let my phone rang. He gets a call in the AM or a text that says oh seen where you called but I was sleep, wassup? Yeah…now he calls a little earlier.
Just a thought for today….
Neffi, looks up at “my Michael” and says I thought you wanted me to meet your woman. I thought the element of surprise would be the best thing! I THOUGHT I TOLD YOU I WOULD GET BACK TO YOU ON THIS…he replies to her in the most rude voice I’ve ever heard him use. Ok, wait, why are you both talking as if I am not here. What in the hell is this all about? Well your man wants me to join you guys in a bit of pleasure. Um excuse me I don’t do threesome and surely not an uninvited threesome. My eye rolling to the back of my head as I place my hand firmly on my hips and do that urban popping of my lips. Calm down Sunshine, I didn’t mean to offend you when I discussed this with Neffi. Please let’s just come inside and talk about it…I am not going to do a round the fucking table with you two. I said No! And that is it…I stump upstairs to my bedroom and slams myself down on my unmade bed. My feelings are hurt. Am I not enough for him? And what kind of bullshit is this, she’s prettier than me and he just want to fuck her, it’s not about me.
He comes upstairs and kiss me on the back of my neck softly and whisper he’s sorry! He says in the sweetest tone I love you and you don’t have to do anything you don’t desire as he caress my body with his warm hands. He turns me over and begin to tease me by sucking on my left nipple, then the right, carefully biting them, more like a nibble. I moan. My body is longing for him. He ask can he do something to me. My body is at his mercy. Sure. He blind folds me. Then ties me up. Each hand to the bed post and leaves my legs free. Honey, this feels weird. He says in a soft whisper just relax. Then he spreads my legs. I feel soft kisses between my thighs. My clitoris is being tongue kissed like never before I began to sway my hips to the rhythm of the tongue. Deep inside me the tongue enters. I moan begging for more. Gosh he never been this good to me before. Then up to my navel soft kisses and slow licks then my breast are being sucked and my nipples become erect and pointed. He takes the blind fold off! My eyes are still shut while I enjoy this unbelievable passion. I open my eyes…NEFFI!!!
Must be 21 and older to read any further!!!
My swollen lips throbs from the pounding assault from the night before. I’m blushing with the thought of him thrusting deeply in my walls of fame. Amazed by surprise to be fucked by the man I love. We have made love numerous times but to be fucked…just took us to another level. We shared intense passion as he slammed me against the wall while carefully positioning me, my hands up against the wall as if I was under arrest and about to be searched. His hands warm when he gently spreads my legs apart. I moan for more my eyes wide open and my mouth thirst for his strong penis to enter me.
My heart races as we are in rhythm together. He starts out with slow but rough stabs into my golden kitty. Then we speed up, so fast, so deep, oh my I scream his name at the same time I climax. My emotions are evident as they run down my legs and soak him. We are not done yet! No? I straddle him and with no romance I ride him hard, I twirl around facing his feet…riding backwards is my speciality move! I bounce hard then harder, he moans like crazy our bodies are hot. I feel him swell beyond measures inside me, he gives my ass one firm grip and POW he erupts. It’s hot as I feel it run thru me and I smile. Deep sighs and heavy breathing is all we hear before we are both fast asleep…
2 b continued because even thought this might not shock you what happens next just might…shrugs!
My heart is pounding it’s been nearly three weeks since I’ve seen him. Every day feeling like a week since our last encounter. I’m thinking what should I wear, how should I do my hair, which fragrance shall I bathe in today?! Will he be just as excited to see me as I am to see him? Of course he has seen me without make up and even without my hair done. So something simple and cute would just do…but who wants something simple, holy shit, it’s been nearly a month! Flips thru my closet almost in a panic. Calm the fuck down, I tell myself it’s just him!!!
This brings me to my post today…Keeping it tight, keeping it right! When he met me he was attracted to my confidence, my boldness and my hella walk. Why fall off now because I got a key to his heart now. Women are notorious for this…going from the bold and the beautiful to the young and the restless in a matter of months. Don’t you want an immediate raise when you walk in the room? Well honey that tired ass pony tail and scarf on your head won’t get you there. LOL! Don’t get me wrong sometimes a tank top and some jeans or fitted capris might be cute on a Saturday morning after a long week. When a man love you he loves you no matter what, right? YES. But to keep his attention it requires keeping yourself up. I can’t lie I’m the first one to admit it’s hard as hell for me because I’m such a laid back jean & tank top type of girl. Boy shorts & a push-up bra vs a thong and bra-less! Not that you can’t be cute in jeans and a tank top, but sometimes you gotta switch things up on them. Pay attention to what your man likes to see you in. I just have learned to keep that WOW factor alive in my relationship.
So yesterday I went to the salon and had my naturally permed hair done to perfection, just the way he likes it…straight and blowing in the wind and no weave. He loves my hair. I’ll take the time to make up my face not to the point where I look like I’m auditioning for bozo the clown, but just enough to hide a few imperfections. Lip gloss is a must make him want to kiss me! HAHA! And I will find something that will say I’m young, hot and still fuckable! Yup, FUCKABLE!
**keeping yourself is not limited to clothes, hair and shoes but also include your health, fitness, & mental state**
So you gave up your little cookie snatch? It was good and you feeling compelled to call him the morning after, right? I mean after all you just gave him your prize so now he’s obligated to love you for the rest of your life, right? He should be whipped and eating out of your hands and ass too if you’re lucky, right? Ladies STOP THIS BULLSHIT! Just because you gave up your little cookie snatch doesn’t mean you got to give up your pride. Women need to control their damn emotions. Men hate this part, at first most will admit, when you immediately call them the day after it strokes their Ego but when you go into STALKER MODE, calling every other minute and now asking wifely questions like…What time you getting home? Who you wit? Where you at? Um, they want to run and hide and if you call and get no answer on the third day this is why!
Try this! Let him call you the day after… And yes he will call if you were good or if it was more than just sex, he will call! Please don’t assume when he does, he now wants to be committed to you. You should establish your status before you lay down with him but that’s just me speaking from an older woman level.