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Which Bridge to Burn

01 Jul

Isn’t this the truth. I think we all have done some things, ruin some relationships that we wished like hell we hadn’t! Then they are a few that we are still holding on to that we need to set a torch to the them! **giggles** Yet most of us are in current relationships and we just don’t know what the hell to do. I hear people say I was at a crossroad. Well I just found out what that mean. When I came to face reality, when I was just slapped with some old dangling feelings, I almost fell backwards. I almost felt sorry for my past and gave up my future. It took a day of sadness a day of hardcore thinking to make me realize there is no point in going backwards. If a person wrong you once without remorse and never admit they wronged you they will damn sure do it again! Welp! If my words are unclear here it’s because I am talking from my head (and that just should say enuff, shit I’m crazy) LOL!

Seriously though don’t keep holding on to things that hold no value or can not add value in your life. Sometimes you have to continue to love people from a distance because they don’t mean you any good. People will look to you just because they need you and when they get up on their feet they will give you their ass to kiss. This applies to family, friends, grown children and lovers. Live your life to your benefit. And my all time favorite motto:

One should never have to compromise their own happiness for someone else~

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Posted by on July 1, 2012 in Broken Hearts Bleed, LOVE

 

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Respect is a Requirement!

04 Mar

I hate a disrespectful man. I can overlook ignorance on a few occasions but disrespect is something I can’t tolerate. I am full of jokes and I love a man with a great sense a humor, even brutal honesty is okay with me. But Damn it I hate it for a man to call me a Bitch or Hoe or any other name that is not on my birth certificate. When I was younger I would refer myself as being a bitch because I can be bitchy from time to time but then I grew up. I realized that if I refer to myself as a bitch to others then they would feel comfortable with calling me that as well. My girls don’t call me that either! Just as I posted recently about being a Freak is okay…I forgot a very strong point in that post. It’s okay to be a lot of things behind closed doors with your husband or long-term mate. He can slap me on my ass and call me freaky or say I’m a freak but he dare not to call me that in public. I just have standards as I hope each and every woman should. I don’t knock others style but I just don’t get down like that…

I handle myself with much class and I can’t fit into any situation, rather it is business casual, executive professional, or ghetto fabulous! But no matter what the situation is I am always going to be a lady with a touch of class and I will be treated as such. If you fail to respond to me in such way then you must become a NON_FACTOR in my life.

 

**random thoughts**

 
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Posted by on March 4, 2012 in GROWN & SEXY, Life

 

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TYPES OF FRIENDS

15 Feb

As I was reading keepingitrealembassy post today it made me really think!  I really don’t have many real people in my life.

  • You know you have those girl-friends who are only happy for you when they are happy and when they are not all they do is give you bad advice to get you to their level. Hate those type chics!
  • Then you got the people who always say girl I’m happy for you but don’t really give a damn either way.
  • Oh and let’s not forget the ones who just go with the flow and agree with whatever the hell you say just to be on your side.
  • Then here comes those beneficial friends…leading your ass to decisions that will benefit them in one way or another.

I am an only child so
it’s just me and my Fabulous Four (the bratts)! I have a man who I believe truly love me and will have my back no matter what who I consider to be my closest friend. Yet, you know I’m very careful with how much trust I put in a man…

I remember at one point in my life where I felt like I just needed a friend. I found myself trusting people easily and then I allowed several twisted people in my life. I confided in them and they betrayed me and of course it hurted a tad bit. Therefore, now I tell folks only what I want them to know and I dare them to repeat it…HA! I stand alone. I solely depend on myself and my faith in God. Because people will always let you down.

If you have a really good friend that you can trust with anything and not be judged, one who will tell you about your ragedy ass when you need it without making you feel like shit…you better hold on to them. You will only find one or two of them in a lifetime!

 

 
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Posted by on February 15, 2012 in Broken Hearts Bleed, Life

 

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My thoughts of the day!

24 Jan

Do you ever feel like things are going to good to be true? Then you get a slap on the ass by life and realize it’s not! I been having one of those moments…We go through life planning and setting goals and dreaming of how we want our life to be. And as soon as the devil throw a monkey wrench in our plans we give up. Why? Not this time for me. I’m going to stay on my path to getting what I feel I deserve. Don’t let the devil, negative friends and family knock you off your path of getting where you are trying to go. Some people who are in your face daily is just there to see you fall. The saying Misery loves company is proven to be true.

Just a thought for today~

 

 
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Posted by on January 24, 2012 in Life

 

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BREAK UP SEASON? WTH!!

03 Dec

Seems like everyone around me is breaking up or going through drama with their men! Um, damn I thought winter time was Make-UP Season! Guess not this year! Problem is most of my friends look to me for advice but only the strong can handle what the hell I have to say…Looks like a few have fell off. Why do women do that? Why ask me a freaking question if you don’t want my honest answer? I’m not mad that you don’t discuss the issue with me anymore or stop talking to me all together because you came to me. I just can’t understand your thought process behind it.

Women always feel so guilty about the slightest mistakes we make, yet we can’t come close to what Men put us through. Stop fucking making excuses to let him walk all over you! Think with your damn head and not your heart for once!

Break-ups suck! I hate to go through one and hate to witness someone else go through one, but that’s the cycle of life. Got to get thru the bad to get to the good! But if you stand still in the wrong spot too long you will miss out! Just my thoughts at random!

 

 
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Posted by on December 3, 2011 in Broken Hearts Bleed, Dear SerenityLuv emails

 

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THOUGHT U CARED?!

01 Dec

Lately, I been watching friends or people I thought were cool fall off. You ever noticed how people are so kind and concern when it’s obvious you are going through some things?! Well I had quite of a bit of so-called friends or concern people around me when times were really hard. I mean I wasn’t begging and borrowing money or nothing to that extent, but I was suffering from a broken heart. Lost nearly 40 lbs and would talk to anyone who would listen because it was constantly on my mind the struggle of becoming a single mother. There was a long period of time when I was really making ends meet, I know y’all know what that mean, right?

Forgive me for trying to do better now…I’m stronger and pretty much back to myself! Some where along the way of my marriage and divorce I had lost me! Now, almost all of those people who pretended to care are no longer there. It’s funny but sad all at the same time because I really thought they cared. They see me looking a little more relaxed and assume that I’m doing extremely well so they act funny when I try to communicate with them or some just don’t even say shit to me anymore! WOW! People don’t realize that I’m still in the same struggle as I was before basically, trying to survive, trying to raise four kids alone, and I’m not Rich! I thought it was okay for me to learn ways to do a little better than before, but I guess it’s a price on everything!  They assume the guy I’m dating has plenty of money and I’m comfortable now. If he got money, um key word is “he” got money! I still have the same income. LOL

I guess this is how when people do come up in the world and start doing well for themselves people start to lie and say oh they changed and how they think they are better than them now. Really? I think it’s those people who you thought was your friends but now are your haters and they changed! Why can’t we still be friends and keep supporting each other? Pull each other up? Give tips on how to get ahead? I’m so disappointed in certain people because I really thought they cared!

I just learn to put something away for hard times and pray it’s there when I need it. I’m still me, the same me, shopping sales and deals, the same me that have to wait every other paycheck, the same me who is starting to say I can’t wait until INCOME TAX TIME! LOL

 

 
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Posted by on December 1, 2011 in Broken Hearts Bleed, Life, LOVE

 

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BROKEN HEARTS BLEEDS

27 Nov

Usually the Winter time is when couples get closer and the singles become no longer single, but lately all I been hearing is a lot of reminders of pain and heartbreak!! Ughhh. Making me fall back into a sad moment here. I was about to tell you guys all over again about my story but I think it’s best I don’t…Just know for all of the people who are hurting tonight with a broken heart I feel your pain. I wish no one had to feel that way. Remember love doesn’t hurt but the people we love do. Don’t stop loving and don’t keep waiting for the moment that you will stop loving the one who doesn’t love you back. Because it just might not happen. I still love my ex-husband and I know I always will and I’m good with that because I know that loving somebody has never hurt anyone…Yet, I don’t regret my choice to walk away. Sometimes we have to find that inner strength to walk away. Love & Let Go is not just a phrase it requires action. If you love someone who you know is not happy with what you have to offer them, then you need to love them enough to let them go. Now if they come back to you, you know the saying then it’s meant to be (PAUSE) right here, if they come back to you and you still want them the way you did before they left then its meant to be…if you have moved forward and the desire to be with them just isn’t there any more than they just lucked out! Chasing a ghost and lost the real thing is never good! But the point is sometimes you have to let go, fighting alone makes you foolish!

 

 
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Posted by on November 27, 2011 in Broken Hearts Bleed

 

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TODAY!

20 Nov

This day will be chock full of clues. As long as you know what you are looking for, you will discover some key information that could change everything you thought you understood. Take that information and use it to make the right choices. Future plans might have to be revised, so try to be prepared for some juggling or creative scheduling. The changes that are forced are meant to happen — do not resist the transformation.

bY: mISTRESSiNfINITY

One of the most important lessons you need to learn in life is that the perfect time just doesn’t exist. So if you are waiting for this mythical perfect time to have an important talk with someone, you are going to be waiting for a very long time. It says a lot about a person who says what he or she needs to say when they feel it … and it enables a lot more productive communication. Start that conversation today. You will be surprised by how easily it will continue.

 
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Posted by on November 20, 2011 in IMVU RELATIONSHIPS, Life, LOVE

 

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He’s what I NEED not what I Want?! Why?

13 Nov

We find the great guy who fits our needs all around, yet, it’s almost as if the body rejects him out of our system. Then when we meet Mr Wrong, mister I’m going to break your heart and stomp on it, we are so willing to fight for his love! Why can’t we reject his ass and accept the love that is fighting for us to just accept them and love them back? Is it human nature to want that challenge? Well how about this ladies let’s challenge ourselves to allow the good in for once and embrace it with all of us and feel some happiness for once. Yeah this mean tear down that big ass wall you hold up with the sign attached that reads I’m only accepting losers and heartbreaker’s here! Laughs my ass off~

 
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Posted by on November 13, 2011 in Broken Hearts Bleed, Life, LOVE

 

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HOW TO SPEND CHILD SUPPORT?

13 Nov

Deep sighs~ as I dive into this subject of Child Support! Seems like more and more men want to know where in the hell does their money go when they pay child support. Fair question? Maybe? Maybe not? Men don’t click off this post it will not be a man bashing post.

When dealing with children and child support you can’t help but go on a case by case situation-so let’s just talk on a general basis. If your child’s mother has always put the child first while you were with her I don’t think that will change when you leave. In other words you will have to trust that your child will be well taken care of and the money you send to support the child will be used wisely! I think our young men forget that child support is not for all name brands, cell phones, and the luxuries that this modern world we live in has to offer. Child support is for food, shelter, after school or in school activities not limited to transportation an even entertainment when funds permits. Also, since the law has changed and the payee does not have to continue supporting the child after high school, the custodial parent may even need to put something away for the child’s college. There is a lot to consider in that payment you send.

Folds my bottom lip as I say this for the custodial parents~Child support is not Mommy Support~ meaning it should not be for you to look glamorous and the kids looking homeless. You driving a BMW and your kids don’t even get a hot meal! I understand where some men are going with this complaint. Yet, I have to say most women are doing what they need to do and men are just bitter that they have to pay it!

Children needs to learn to earn things that are luxury~so don’t be so quick to judge if your kid does not have all you think they should have; it may be for other reasons than Mommy just keeping it all for herself.

Consider this as well your payment comes on schedule when life just happens at random. Meaning things come up and mothers have to take care of so much outside of a child support check because we are there 24/7 on call nurse, doctor, friend, mom and entertainment~ that’s us!

Really when you look at things sending a payment is the easy part!

Share your thoughts please good or bad~or email me serenitysmith98@yahoo.com

 
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Posted by on November 13, 2011 in Life, PARENTING

 

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