Love, Life and Relationships

Lies & Betrayal

serenityluv1 — Sat, 25 Feb 2012 12:48:59 +0000

This week has been one helluva week! Ran into an old friend and I was shamefully disappointed to hear my Ex is still spreading lies of me keeping him away from his kids. If you been following my blog for some time you would know where in the Bratts series I crave for this man to spend time with our children. I am far too grown for lil girl ~~games!~~ So I stood there with my mouth wide open. Funny thing is I kind of expected this but I assumed by now things would change.

I cant put into words how much I hate that we can not have a healthy parenting relationship, after spending over 15years together…it hurts to know that we he cant do it for our children!

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Raising children after a divorce does not have to be this complicated! If only parents woukd act as adults…

DATING AN OLDER MAN

serenityluv1 — Fri, 24 Feb 2012 11:04:44 +0000

Dating an older man has its perks at times. He is far more mature and more established in his life. Not because he is rich (because he is not) but simply because he has made good choices with his money and has lived much longer than I. I don’t count the material things as a major factor of dating, but having a mature man makes a hell of a difference to me! And the fact that he teaches me things on how to better my life, financially, mentally, spiritually and um etc. That is the best thing!

On the flip side there is a large age gap which means we are somewhat in different stages in our lives and this could complicate things a little. Like any relationship if you want it to work you put for the effort to make it happen. Sometimes I get comments like in a few years the sex will be no good and I will be cheating. Hmm, not sure about that one. Or I get comments of he will become jealous of young men constantly hitting on me and become abusive. But the best one is that I am his play bunny and he is Hefner and that’s why he don’t mind spoiling me!

I love the way people automatically assume things! I must be a gold digger or he must be some sex crazy older guy. Well if we are then it’s an even swap right? LOL! But that’s not the case here. We were friends and happen to get closer in time. Bonded by personalities and by compatible goals, wants and needs. Sure it’s a challenge there, just like it is for any relationship. I enjoy that he can hold his own and spoil me from time to time with expensive gifts. I would be a freaking liar if I said anything different but I own my own home and car. I work everyday and hard too. I take care of me and my children. Their father pay nicely in child support to help with them so for the record I am not solely money motivated to date him.

Here’s the thing though I do wonder how things will be in 10 years from now. Ha! Not on the sex tip I know how to handle all that…shit theres Viagra, toys, fingers and so on! Don’t be stupid! LOL! But will we still enjoy each other the same way. Oh hell what the fuck who cares I am living in the moment! And loving every minute of the ride!

Sucks to be me

serenityluv1 — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 19:55:59 +0000

Im so damn boring! When I was married I had more fun, more sex! Tired of this lifestyle. Guess somebody in a pissy mood! Welp, my family expect so much out of me, I am the good girl! Fuck that!! I wanna live, my guy might not like the new me! Beware! Ha! Ranting from my cheap ass phone at work! Wow!! no edits, no perfect post just what im thinking! Blahblah blah

Video Blogging?

serenityluv1 — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 19:08:14 +0000

Should I even go there? Does it take away from the purpose of blogging? Hmm, I am considering it, just a little!

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Maybe words are enough

Random Thoughts on Games~

serenityluv1 — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 01:48:24 +0000

I been so busy with worth and my side hustle (legal hustle)! Laughs…I been again slow with response to my blog. I’m trying to do better but I gotta do what pays the bills first, right!

Really quick I just want to say…I been hearing some wild stories from some random chics who just come to me for advice or just to vent. And for the most part I have been slightly annoyed actually. I hate that so many good women are so desperate to be loved by a man that they will go for anything or settle for a piece of a man just to say they got one! Why? This is bullshit. When a man begin to isolate you from all your friends he is closing the walls in on you so you can’t see out because he is in the street. And Why can’t women see when they are the side chic? You his back up or jump off as the fellows would say…he uses your ass like a spare tire! Ughhh! Alot of shit been on my mind these last few days.

See I am so nervous about giving up my entire heart to another man because of the games, the bullshit as games they play. And I have sat back and studied men behaviors for so long that I know their next move before they make it. I have to admit though I am so guilty of playing mind games myself. I can’t help it. The moment I since you not 100% with me a light come on and the games begin, before you know I’ll have your ass in a mental institution fucking with me. Because I hate the bullshit. Just keep it real with me, damn! It’s not that hard. I am not an ordinary female when it comes to most things. I’ve learned to pick my battles so I don’t fuss over petty issues. If a fine ass chic pass by and my dude take a look, I’m good with that as long as he don’t drewl. He want to go to the strip club and slap a few big booties, that’s fine too! Just respect me be upfront, hell who knows I might want to be your stripper, shit bring the dollars! I’ll make it clap for ya! HA!

KNOW YOUR WORTH.COM

serenityluv1 — Mon, 20 Feb 2012 11:36:06 +0000

Thought of the day: It’s nice to hear great compliments. People can say how beautiful you are all day but if you don’t feel or don’t already know that, the compliments holds NO value at all. Know your worth.

Don’t let others dictate your direction in life. Nor shall you allow others opinions or thoughts of you define who you are!

Arrogance is never attractive but Confidence is a turn on!

Love yourself is the best policy because it will never expire!

Please enjoy your day! Muah

INTERACTIVE BLOGGING

serenityluv1 — Sun, 19 Feb 2012 12:48:15 +0000

Sorry for yesterday~ I approved comments but wasn’t able to really reply. I am also somewhat still busy today as well but I am going to try to catch up here. Boy did yesterday get interesting as I tried to sneak and read your comments. For those of you who are lost here. I been dancing with words back and forth with some of my new favorite male bloggers. Here are the blogs that are in discussion:

/stir-it-up-saturdays-my-response-games-women-play/

/games-men-play/

/meet-my-representative/

And if you want to check out another male blogger who I love to debate with on his Pick Up Game and hot topics-here’s where you might find him.

SocialKenny

Okay signing off to do some cleaning and resting from a long date that lasted til about 6am the next morning! LMAO…But start reading and we will discuss I will be able to respond today for sure! LOL

***one last thing** coming soon my best and strongest commenters will be listed within the next few days! These bloggers don’t mind giving their opinions and their blogs are absolutely some of my favorite reads!!

Meet my Representative

serenityluv1 — Sat, 18 Feb 2012 12:40:50 +0000

Aren’t you tired of being fooled by his/her Representative? Let me explain. When you first meet a person you don’t really meet them you meet their fake ass representative. You know the person they want you to believe they are.

Men for example-

so known for pretending to have so much more than they really have. Like they are ballers with plenty money only to find their ass is just an average salary guy.
Or they are so into what you like and they adore you…complimenting you on your cute fit and sending you beautiful roses only 3-6 months after to find out they don’t noticed shit about you and roses? bitch please? You won’t get them again!
They love the way you are but as soon as you tell them you love them-they use this shit as a weapon to convince you to change into doing things you really don’t want to do…

Women for example

She is such a sweet girl, work hard, cook & clean type chic-gotta love her right? Wrong! This bitch will not cook your ass a hot meal to save your life after 3-6 months. After she suck your dick & lick your balls she know you won’t care so why bother! OOps did you just find out she have slept with not just 1 guy but 1 on every street!
Miss Independent chic- I got my shit together, pay my own bills drive my own car type chic, take care of my kids all by myself! Hmm. well if you never see the kids it’s because she never have them, check with the nearest neighbor or perhaps her mother house and yeah bitch balling off her baby daddies child support! And the car she drive 2 months behind but right after she fuck you she can get caught up because you will make the payments! LOL
Miss I can’t find a good guy-This one is too simple. It’s not them it’s her. Do you really think after going through 1,000 different men not one of them was any good?

Alright guys this was just a random thought no editing but hey lets talk about this a little. I would love to hear what you have to say about this one. Also coming up is my new best bloggers post! LOL

RANDOM THOUGHTS

serenityluv1 — Sat, 18 Feb 2012 01:06:41 +0000

HOPE YOU GUYS ARE HAVING A BLAST…I AM PREPARING FOR MY POSTPONED DATE TMW! NOT SURE IF THIS WILL RESULT IN A BLOG BUT IT’S ABOUT TO BE SOME SERIOUS ACTION GOING DOWN, WELL MAYBE! HELL IT’S BEEN SINCE UM UM UM OH DAMN I CAN’T REMEMBER HOW LONG SINCE I HAVE LET THE GOLDEN KITTY GET MILK! LMAO! **SORRY I HAD TO SAY THAT**

BUT UM…I THINK I NEED TO HOLD OUT JUST A WHILE LONGER…

OOH LET ME TELL YOU GUYS AN OLD CHILD HOOD FRIEND STOPPED ME AS I WAS GETTING OUT OF MY CAR TODAY AND LORD HE HIS HELLA SEXY-CHOCOLATE FINE ASS BROTHER OH AND FROM THE SCOPE OF THINGS HE IS PACKING. HE GAVE ME A HUG AND RIGHT THEN I SINNED! GIGGLES** LET’S JUST SAY I ENDED UP IN THE SHOWER FOR A FEW MINUTES BECAUSE I COULD HAVE DONE SOME THINGS WITH HIM…PROBLEM IS I AM NOT A WHORE LIKE THAT, DAMN! WHAT’S WRONG WITH ME? I THINK I WANNA BE A HOE…LMAO

Games Men Play

serenityluv1 — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 00:54:18 +0000

Lying Game- A man will tell you any damn thang you want to hear when he trying to get in your pants. Some men are better than others with this bullshit. Be Careful! You can be the ugliest chic on the earth but he will make you feel so damn pretty and before you know it he got you face down fucking the shit out of you. Yeah notice I said face down! LOL! A man don’t think of lying as a bad thing, they call it skills.
Guilt Trip Game-This is most likely used when you are already in a relationship with a man. After he has already had your little ass pinned up in all sorts of awkward positions. He knows you are emotionally connected at this point. Here’s the number one problem with chics as soon as you spread your legs you fall in love or lose all your common sense. Now when he wants something or has been caught in the wrong he will flip the shit around with the guilt trip. (There are too many examples of this to name them all) But lets just use a big one such as you have caught him cheating on you. He might say some shit like this…it wasn’t nothing with that girl. I gave her my number because you pissed me off because you don’t never want to hang out no more! Or if he’s good he won’t even admit it he will say something like this…I haven’t been talking to that chic. You must be doing something wrong and now you blaming me. Every time I try to do right with you it’s always something. Just because you don’t do such and such you think I’m going to cheat. **hello Guilt Trip**
Married Man Victim Game~Oh lord, I hope you ladies already know how this work but some of you are a bit slow so let me tell ya! Married men love to bad talk their wives and say how they are trapped in a marriage and the famous line their in it for the kids. Don’t fall for this shit! Because most of them aint going nowhere and lying like a dog. Besides you are probably not his first affair and this is probably routine for him.
Players Game~First thing a man does is isolate you if you are his main girl or in-house chic. He don’t want you hanging with your girlfriends and will often make you feel that all of them are jealous of you just in case one of them decide to tell you to leave his player ass! Or if they see him with his side chic he can say they are lying. Players are usually very good at one they do and some are almost flawless but of course men are never smarter than a woman when we use our head. Unfortunately, we forget to think after we done fell in the trap called love or lust.
I love you Game~I really thought that grown men didn’t play this game anymore. However, I have learned that since it still works for them they still use it. They will spit these words out and the rest is history for the woman who is just desperate to hear those three words. But a good player will not go there. They will not use these words because they have been taught by the big dawgs that their game is weak if they have to say I love you to get the panties.

I know my male readers will say this post is lame and it doesn’t happen like this but don’t listen to them they are liars!! LOL

And this is the basic games men play…The real Games are the Mind Games that men play and that my dear reader would have to be a blog all by itself!