Love, Life and Relationships

I need a Man?!

serenityluv1 — Wed, 30 May 2012 13:44:29 +0000

Car issues and I got to go in my own account to resolve this shyt! Im annoyed! Where is my strong black man to help a sista out… You know to make sure I dont get ripped off and stuff… Smh! Single Ladies got it ruff… So here I am again in thus big world alone. Fuck it, dont feel sorry for me im about to change the game for Women. Serenity bout to be on sum new shit….continue to follow

A Cure to a Man is another Man!

serenityluv1 — Tue, 29 May 2012 09:13:47 +0000

So looks like dude has been dragging his feet. So I’m off to phase two of moving on. Of course this will require a great bit of distraction being that my mind always default to him. So this is the plan… I will be spending quite a bit of time out and about. Maybe a few dinner dates. Really not trying to hook up with girlfriends tho…all they will do is make matters worse…surely not on purpose but just because we will just dwell on the break up the whole time.

Sad part is… I’m not that much of a social butterfly and I work an awful lot but I’ll make the time. The other issue is I have picked up a bad habit of going out and buying me expensive gifts when I’m not at my best and being that my guy might not be around…I need to save my coins for just because purposes.

Never leave on bad terms like you know that ghetto type break up…cussing and calling names. Just be a lady and keep it classy this makes it bitter-sweet for the both of you. Oh yeah and my signature move is to always make sure the last time is the best time. For a man they will remember that more and wonder if someone else will be getting that action…

Time to focus on other things…..tick tock tick tock tick tock….

**oh yeah and it’s almost mandatory that you always look your best during this time** so tomorrow I will be getting my hair together, fits ready for those just in case moments we cross each other paths! Don’t want him to see me sweat…

After Life of a Divorce

serenityluv1 — Mon, 28 May 2012 10:03:02 +0000

I went though several phases and actually they started during the divorce/separation!

The Hurt Phase- the pain of knowing its over
The denial phase, hoping things will work itself out
The blame phase rather you blame them or yourself
The Strong Phase- feeling like you can get through it only to have a relapse every other day
The acceptance phase- accepting it’s really over and taking responsibility of your part of the failure
Finally, the letting go & moving on phase.

For those of you who don’t know I was married to my ex-husband for 15 years and spent 17 years with him. I have been by myself for nearly 5 years now. I have become adapted to the new Single Mother thing. At times I roll over in my bed and wish that I had someone there to wrap their arms around me. Yet there are so many nights I’m just glad that I can lay there without that tap on the shoulder for early morning sex right before work! Not that I didn’t enjoy it once we got started but waking me up was the issue…Wait! Sometimes I was the one tapping his shoulder! LOL! Anyway you guys get my point, I hope!

And now that I’ve reached this point of stability, finally got things on track financially and all! Here comes the drama. Something about Men that pisses me off…Now he wants me back. Let me break something down here… He don’t really want me. He miss having his shit together and all his money in one house. It would be better for him in his little mind. Well sorry, buddy, I can’t go backwards now! Besides someone else has stolen my heart (even though I’m in a pickle with him too) I just can’t go back.

I had to work hard to get to this point. I am finally looking at myself and finding my faults and flaws as in the start of things I didn’t think my shyt stanked! I know I made mistakes and honestly I always did know that just wasn’t willing to work on them. Now I am trying… its hard.

MYSTERY MAN

serenityluv1 — Sun, 27 May 2012 18:54:24 +0000

Okay so a few days ago! I mentioned how I find one of my fellow bloggers interesting. I don’t want him to streamline me any dick or anything…just like his style and has imagined what he looks like and sound like through his words. Yet, there was a twist because I believe he has multiple blogs and I am following a few of them. I know he would more than likely not admit to that part which is perfectly okay! But just maybe he will reveal his face on his blog…lol!

Of course we all know my love hate relationship is with one my favorite male bloggers Social Kenny, then I believe he is one and the same as Reemachronicles and often play the role as Bogspua… There you have it!

Here’s the thing Reema’s post reminds me a dude I use to date. It took me years to break him down. He was surely a true Alpha male and in all honesty I can’t really say I broke him completely but further than any other woman til this day. Hmm because I’m on my shyt! HAHA

I’m an ALPHA FEMALE- read more if you like SERENITY!

So Reema, Can I get a download? **singing the song** lol!

Upcoming post…on a more serious note as promise….

PARENTING BRATTS/ Mommy got a Favorite

serenityluv1 — Fri, 25 May 2012 09:57:22 +0000

These are my two youngest teenagers… I don’t put their faces on the internet. But these two are a mess. First of all the one in the green was having her first dance and I had bought her two dresses and she decided she would where the green and blue dress. The other one in brown decided she would get dressed in the other just because…smh! This is what I deal with all the time. These two are so close in size ( 0 & 00) they constantly fuss over who jeans is who’s and so on. I have 3 girls so I have always kept them color coded (clothes wise) but they seem to still fight over the clothes anyway or any stupid stuff. I didn’t have sisters in my house so I am not used to this…

Raising kids is no joke! Now the new thing is that I am being accused of having a favorite. The problem is the name of the favorite change every other week. I promise them I can’t stand them all the same and love them all because I can’t help it but they just won’t believe me! Ugggggggggggggggggh

Hood Translator

serenityluv1 — Thu, 24 May 2012 16:53:24 +0000

JUST SEX or Just Game?

serenityluv1 — Thu, 24 May 2012 09:39:14 +0000

How many times have we told our girlfriends that it is just sex? Women are too damn emotional to say it’s just sex because that never last long. There are only a few exceptions that can bypass the emotional attachment that comes along with sex, especially good sex. Men are different from us because sex is more physical for them not an emotional activity. You rarely get banged by a dude and he be like Ahh man I’m in love the day after! If he does he’s a PUNK! LOL!

Stop lying to yourself, stop spreading your legs and giving up your pride for a few moments of worthless pleasure. You know you want more so why not have it. You are worth waiting for in a relationship. Men hold an entire different level of respect for a woman with morals and standard than a chic that’s just a good lay. Sure they will take the sex but don’t expect much more after that…

Then I hear my friends say they just need it…We make up all of these excuses just to justify why we have settled for a dead-end relationship of good sex because we are too afraid to be alone for a little time. Therefore, we will take the random booty calls just to get a bit of attention. I know it’s sad, right? Bet we have all done it once or twice tho!

Take the time to know your worth and meet someone who will appreciate that and compliment all your attributes you have to offer. He is out there looking for you but he can’t never find you because you are too busy being laid up in someone apartment, hotel or in your bedroom. Get out mix and mingle…And drop this saying…IT IS WHAT IT IS!

as usual I am open to discussion: Your turn!

Are you a Diva?

serenityluv1 — Wed, 23 May 2012 09:55:58 +0000

Now days everyone refer to themselves as a Diva! Really? What is this new title? What makes you feel you are a Diva? Is it the clothes you wear, the car you drive, your overly confident personna? I just wanna know what makes you a Diva. I never give myself any titles other than I am a Woman and I am ME! I’m not stating there is anything wrong with it… just simply saying at the moment in my life I don’t feel I really a title such as this. Yet, I find myself blushing when I am often called such names but Um then my mind went to wonder… what does this mean or does it mean anything at all…

I know I am rambling about anything… Anyway if you want to discuss feel free… If not just like my post! HAHA! Huggz to all of you…

**update on upcoming post** The rest of the week I plan to go to more serious topics such as

Here My Cry
Self Inflicted Pain of a Broken Heart
Desperate Need of a Mothers Love
Sexual Abuse
Forgiveness is Required to Mend a Broken Heart
Jude me or Judge me not by my Past

Who is he? My Mystery Blogger

serenityluv1 — Tue, 22 May 2012 11:31:21 +0000

There is a blogger that moves me by his words. Its like the good girl desiring to have that bad boy. Not even sure if he’s real or a bad boy. I just tend to imagine him and his voice as I read his words. Funny thing is that I believe he has multiple blogs and is displaying his complex personality thru them all. I am the lucky duck who fell for the one with no face. He will read this and know who he is…

Theres more to this…stay tuned as I continue to fantasize over my mystery blogger. Do you know who he is?

If you can not view the video- here’s a summary of what I am saying: Basically there is a blogger who has no picture shown and I believe he have multiple pages here on WordPress and I’m trying to figure out if he is one and the same. I’m also wondering if some of you can guess who he is… It’s all in fun and humor! I am not trying to expose anyone…but I guess my goal is to get him to reveal his face so I can see if he looks like I imagined him. LOL (video is pretty redundant perhaps)

Taking my own Advice!

serenityluv1 — Tue, 22 May 2012 10:21:16 +0000

Yesterday ended pretty well for me. I have learned that less is best. We too often as women want to run and cry to our girlfriends and put them all up in our relationship. WRONG ANSWER! I believe I have given others advice not to do this type thing because it will only heighten your problems. It never end up in a good way. Yes at the moment you feel a sudden relief as you have spilled your business in the lap of another and pray that it doesn’t go any further. Haha! Most cases it does eventually travel or the person you are sharing with doesn’t truly want you to be happy because you just might be happier than them. Anyway…blah blah…Just keep your damn business private basically what I’m saying.

I been just trying to get better, feel better, live, laugh, love and be happy!

I had to realize who are truly there for me at the end of the day when I need them. I am a Single Mother who has little to no support from my baby daddy so I have to be careful not to burn bridges that I may need to cross back over again. Yet, there are some bridges I had to burn as I don’t want to ever trample across those again… Anyway have a great day…

I will be catching up on a few blogs today and preparing a more serious video blog for you guys! Kisses